It's natural for us to think that success & happiness are a result of external factors such as wealth, success, and material possessions. However, the fact is that our brain's perception of the world plays a much more significant role than any external factor.
Research by positive psychology researcher Shawn Anchor revealed that a staggering 90% of our happiness is not determined by our external circumstances, but rather by the way our brain processes them. Yes, you read that right - you have the power to find happiness within yourself, no matter what challenges you may be facing!
One of the key factors that influences how our brain processes external stimuli is optimism. Shawn’s studies demonstrated that people with a positive outlook on life are better equipped to cope with setbacks and find joy in the little things. It's not about denying reality or ignoring the challenges we face, but rather about cultivating a mindset that allows us to see the silver lining even in the darkest clouds. Optimism can be developed and nurtured through practices such as gratitude, positive self-talk, and reframing negative thoughts. Our brain has a unique ability to shape our perception of the world, and it's up to us to train it to perceive the world in a positive light.
Another crucial factor in our pursuit of happiness and success is our social support network. Surrounding ourselves with positive, supportive relationships can significantly impact our levels of happiness and more importantly resilience. Close relationships with family and friends can help us weather life's storms with greater ease and bounce back from setbacks more quickly. It's important to invest time and effort in building and maintaining meaningful connections with those who uplift and inspire us.
But what about success? Is it all about having a high IQ or being born into wealth & privilege? Not quite. While IQ certainly plays a role, it only accounts for 25% of the equation. The remaining 75% is determined by our level of optimism, social support, and our ability to view stress as a challenge rather than a threat. This means that our mindset and social connections are crucial determinants of our success.
Finally, how we perceive and respond to stress can greatly impact our ability to achieve success. Those who view stress as a challenge, an opportunity for growth and learning, are better able to tackle difficult tasks and stay motivated in the face of adversity. It's about shifting our perspective of stress as something that holds us back to something that creates the pressure to propel us forward. Embracing a growth mindset, where we see challenges as stepping stones rather than stumbling blocks, can make a world of difference in our pursuit of success.
So, what does all of this mean for you in your daily life? Life can be tough, bloody tough but what this tells us is that you are not at the mercy of external circumstances, but rather the master of your own destiny. You have the power to shape your own happiness and success. By cultivating a positive mindset, building strong social connections, and embracing stress as a challenge, you have the potential to unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling and successful life.
Cheers, Ben
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Disclaimer: The information contained in this column is general in nature and for education purposes only. It is not financial advice. No one should act on the information without appropriate specific advice for your particular circumstances. Ben Law is a former financial advisor but is no longer licensed and cannot and will not give you specific or personal advice in this column.